Domestic Abuse

Tackling domestic abuse is a top priority. If you are a victim of domestic abuse or are in a controlling relationship, or you know someone who is - please call us on 101 or in an emergency 999. 

We will listen, we will act, we will help you.

Domestic abuse is not just about violence. Controlling behavior (known as coercive control) can be just as dangerous and difficult to cope with the abuser can isolated from your friends and family.

How to spot the signs of domestic abuse

  • Injuries – a victim may have bruising, cuts or other injuries. A victim may excuse their injuries by claiming they are clumsy or give the same explanation each time.

  • Stress – a victim may display physical symptoms related to stress, other anxiety disorders or depression. They may have panic attacks, or have strong feelings of isolation and an inability to cope. In more extreme cases the victim may talk of suicide or have even made attempts. 

  • Absent from work - a victim may be late for or off work on a regular basis, or take time off without notice.

  • Personality changes – you may notice personality changes when a victim is around their partner. They may appear to ‘walk on eggshells’, or be jumpy and nervous

  • Low self-esteem – a victim may express or display low self-esteem or lack of confidence regarding their relationship or life in general.  

  • Lack of money – a victim may never seem to have any money because their partner is withholding it from them to control them.

  • Stops socialising – a victim may regularly make excuses for not going out with friends, or suddenly pull out of social meets at the last minute.

  • A victim's partner might display irrational behaviour – they might be jealous, aggressive or possessive. He or she may accuse them of having affairs, flirting or may read their emails, check their phone or constantly phone to check up on them.

  • Unwanted pregnancy/termination – pregnancy often triggers the start of domestic abuse. This may lead a female abuse victim to be unhappy at being pregnant, not wish to continue with the pregnancy, or be forced into having a termination by her partner.

  • Substance abuse – victims may use alcohol, illegal drugs, or prescribed drugs like tranquillisers or anti-depressants to cope.

  • Damage to property – there may be damage to the home or even harm to the pets of victims.

 

What we are doing to tackle domestic abuse?

  • We are committed to preve​nting and bringing to justice people who commit domestic abuse and coercive control.

  • We deal with all victims without prejudice and in confidence - if you are male or female you can come to us in complete confidence.

  • We work with other people who can help with safety planning and aftercare for you and your family.

  • We have a dedicated team of experts who deal with domestic abuse. These officers know how difficult reporting it can be and they will ensure that you are safe when you report it and throughout any police or court action that may follow.

 

If you want advice and support, but not from the police, see below for contact details of local services that can help.

You can also read our Domestic Abuse Improvement Plan 2018/19 for more information.

We work closely with a service called Strength to Change, based in Hull. If you live in Hull and would like help stop violence in your home, call 01482 613403. 

Other helplines which may be useful are:

RESPECT - The National Association for Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmes and Associated Support Services. RESPECT hold a full list of Perpetrator Programmes in the UK (including those that accept self-referral), together with counsellors, etc trained in this field. Telephone for details on 0845 122 8609 or email info@respect.uk.net 

Everyman Project - Tel. 0207 263 8884. Counselling, support and advice to men who are violent or concerned about their violence, and anyone affected by that violence.

 

Victimless prosecutions - we can help you without you

  • Until recently the police have needed a victim to progress a criminal investigation, however since 2001 the police have been able to pursue with an investigation without the victim being involved.

  • It can be scary for a victim to seek help or report their partner for being a domestic abuse perpetrator, but being in an abusive relationship is perilous and potentially dangerous.

  • We work with victims and respect their wishes, however the police have to assess the risk to the public and the potential of serious harm reoccurring. We sometimes have to make the decision to progress with an investigation despite the victim not

  •  wishing to put a complaint in when the offence is deemed so serious and we have enough evidence to progress without the victim contributing in anyway.

  • If the offence was so serious we must do the right thing and continue with the investigation. All the time the investigation is running and the court case is live we will still update the victim, offer advice and support from other organisations and charities.